I got my grubby, man hands on a copy of Men on Strike (or rather, on the Kindle, which contains a copy…), and I finished it in about two sittings. This is a relatively short, stream of consciousness kind of review; I don’t have a system for reviewing stuff or a fun star/number scale…
I’ve not really talked much, here, about the Manosphere or Men’s Rights. Mostly, because I usually have something else on my mind come posting time. So here we go:
Dr. Helen’s concept is that men are on strike, and that society has moved to a place where it is slanted against us. Now, from a personal perspective, I’ve seen some of the opposite: I’m married, my wife was married before and she didn’t nuke her ex-husband from orbit or try to deny him access to the kids. But the plural of anecdote isn’t data. The truth is, while it’s letting up somewhat, society has pretty much blasted men and masculinity for a good long while. The numbers are in and it’s not a disputable fact: Men are boycotting marriage and “going Galt.” Anyone who denies this isn’t looking rationally at the numbers. I could sit here and set out a defense for all the naysayers who want to argue with the facts, but that’s lunacy on the level of arguing with people who think the government was behind 9/11. Instead, I’ll talk about the book! So what Dr. Helen does is straightforward: She talks to men, and women, and talks about cases where men are getting screwed royally.
The numbers are there: The book is littered with citations. Dr. Helen did her homework, and it shows. The book covers various topics — divorce, child support, declining interest in marriage, and the one I found most interesting: Paternity fraud.
I knew about paternity fraud, and I knew about women tricking men into fathering children with them (recovering sperm from a condom and the like) — hell, the NBA caused a stir when they suggested players destroy or take the condom with them. (Anyone who has a problem with this? Lunatic.) But I had no idea how big of a problem it had become — nor did I know how absolutely awful the courts were about it. Men are being forced to pay child support for children that are not their own. Dr. Helen goes through case after case, example after example, and covers quite a bit of actual law. Stuff that matters — stuff the courts rule, or elected politicians enact. It is atrocious.
Dr. Helen also talks about relationships and how to approach them. All of that is good advice — especially when she recommends not going out and bad-mouthing your significant other to your friends — and her background in psychology comes in pretty handy there.
A lot of men feel like something is wrong. They’re right, and this book lays it all out. This book, with Dr. Helen’s way of explaining things, gives words to the thoughts a lot of us have had. I recommend everyone give this book a shot: read it with an open mind and understand that just because you feel the book might be wrong, doesn’t mean it is. Feelings and facts are different things.
I think I’m going to become more involved in the Manosphere and Men’s Rights, even though it’ll probably cost me some sales… because after reading this book, I feel like I can’t stay on the sidelines.